The Sucky Thing About NC500,

I say this as a person who is not a lover of driving and just sees it as a way to get from point A to point B, but I can say from experience as well as the input of my husband, the sucky thing about the North Coast 500 isn't anything to do with the parts that have been rebuilt, or the fact that some sections may or may not have average speed cameras, or the fact that there are definitely average speed cameras on the way up there. It's not the single track roads or the parts where you see abandoned homes and businesses which clearly couldn't make it through the seasonal nature of the trip (because you don't want to risk going and hitting closed roads with snow gates across them, or the conditions when the roads are so wet you can barely see) but the fact that in the UK we aren't taught to drive, we're taught to pass a test.

This is not meant to knock driving instructors because I loved my driving instructor. She had a lot to put up with because I legitimately panicked and cried behind the wheel, more than once, but once I had passed my test people who had been driving for longer told me that now was the time to learn to drive properly, which kind of annoyed me, but I also had no idea what it meant and that kind of continued until I met my husband.

One massive difference between the pair of us is that he learnt to drive when he was seventeen, and did his pass plus and then spent the next decade and a half driving all manner of different vehicles and in different environments which have shaped the way that he drives and how good of a driver he is. He is someone who loves cars and karting etc, but he's at home behind the wheel of a car, and he swaps between our little sports car (don't get too excited, she is a shed) and our big family car with ease whereas I still put the roof down when I revere the sports car (because the rear view mirror is tiny and the roof being off means much more visibility) and scream occasionally when driving the big family car, because it's a bus in my head.

Tangent, I know...

In the UK we're taught to check our rear view mirror when we're reversing or when we join a new road, but the NC500 is a lot of time on a small number of roads, so in theory, you can get away with checking your rear view mirror, less than ten times on the whole trip unless you're looking at the view, though that might be a bit of an exaggeration. The same drive in other countries would not look anything like the same. 

Now, there are signs in a lot of places which say 'Police Notice - Allow overtaking' or words to that effect, but it comes across more as a polite notice than an instruction. You'd think that it would be pretty simple though, because all traffic travels at the same speed, but that's where it gets more complicated. The route of the NC500 is generally single track or single lanes in each direction, so cars can go one speed, vans are ten miles an hour slower, and trucks and tankers are restricted as well, but that's mainly in terms of their size and capacity to accelerate. The signs referenced above are there to try and reduce traffic - telling slower vehicles to get in a lay by or passing place and allow faster vehicles past, not to say allow people to speed (but let's face it, this isn't Formula 1 and these bozos are not the safety car!) but to stop traffic building up by playing a game of follow the leader doing forty miles an hour (at best) when the speed limit is sixty.

This problem is amplified by the number of camper vans on the NC500, which is a great way to see the route, but they are vans, so lower speed limits, difficulties accelerating, yada yada yada, and there are specific companies who rent out camper vans in the area for people to hire to do the NC500. So not only do you have camper vans coming out the wazoo, some of them are being driven worse than noobs on Christmas Day and Boxing Day when it's their first time on Grand Theft Auto...

Worse still you have people like me that never really learnt to overtake, so even if you're in a car with a decent sized engine and not dragging a caravan, half a kitchen or a tent box on the roof, have a clear shot at the road with a straight line and good visibility, you might not know how to safely get around the van or vehicle in front, let alone doing it quickly, or have the inclination to do it, because any length of time driving on the wrong side of the road feels unnatural and I don't recommend doing it whilst screaming.

The stupid thing is, it's only really small adjustments which would make it so much easier and a much more pleasant drive for everyone. If you know you're not in a "fast" vehicle, check your rear view mirror, and if there is at least one faster vehicle behind you, pull to the side, but definitely if there is a small or medium queue developing, Pull. To. The. Side. There are plenty of passing places and lay-by's for a reason and they are very well marked. If you get stuck behind someone in a "slower" vehicle and for whatever reason you won't do an overtake, Pull. To. The. Side. Or at least leave a big enough gap so someone can overtake you, come back in and then go for an overtake on the slow vehicle. There are so many ways to make overtaking easier, but it's not even the important bit. The important bit is remembering that it's not about driving like you're Billy Big Potatoes or doing something out of frustration or because you feel like you have to, but just having a bit of consideration for other drivers etc and getting out of the way occasionally. Even if you forget to check your mirror and someone has to remind you by flashing their headlights or flicking their indicators at you to get you to just move your dawdling ass, don't then flip them the bird like they're the one in the wrong (because they're not, you are). I'm looking at you Mr Peugot, and I don't give a stuff if it was a rental.

Before anyone thinks it was something where we should have just put up or shut up, it was about fourteen miles of single track road with multiple passing places, where we were car number one in the queue behind them and by the time they pulled over and flipped the bird, there were twelve cars in the queue. Naturally that queue of twelve was only going to get longer the longer time it went on for, and this is on one of their less busy roads. One of the other vehicles in that line was a recovery truck. Yes, the NC500 isn't a race track - it's not like going to the Nurberg ring and trying to post the fastest time your vehicle can do or the fastest time you can manage, but there's a difference between a road trip at a reasonable speed where you see the sights of the edges of mainland Scotland and driving around in an ever extending queue which then takes an age to clear when the blocker gets out of the way. On the A9 on the way back we saw a wide vehicle which was either a large farm vehicle or part of the dualling works which are going on to try and reduce some of these problems and there was over a hundred and fifty cars already in a queue (and yes, we did count, like it was football passes during a screening of The Room) behind it with no chance of passing for a significant section of road. That is obviously more complicated because being a wider vehicle the options for being able to pull over and allow other vehicles to pass safely, but in that queue were multiple coaches, buses, lorries, vans and camper vans, so even if the schedule and the road allowed this vehicle to pull over, there would be additional issues, and I don't want to think about the amount of time added to the journeys of those joining the back of that queue. 

One Thing I Hate In AirBnBs Is,

I think this pre-exists being a mum, but at the same time I think it was amplified by the fact that when we were away last week (or last week to when this is posted, because I'm writing it on the last night of the honeymoon having been drafting it in my head for the past half an hour...) in Scotland, in an AirBnB, our son was the most mobile he has ever been and he was expressing his distaste for being contained. He's very much used to having his bottle by himself and he kind of likes it that way, but he doesn't tend to have his bottles in a high chair and I'm trying to convince him to, partly because I think it helps him get into the habit of having a bottle and food, without having to do bottle in one place and food in another, but I digress... 

When my son was in the high chair, he would lob things off the tray table or anything that was close to him and he's got a pretty good arm...

So why does this make me hate AirBnBs? Well, that's overstating it, but I do get frustrated when AirBnBs have these Scandi style sofas with the legs and the bases that are six inches off of the floor, or other furniture where there is a large gap at the bottom, because when little man decides he wants to throw things, I have more places to look to find them and more places to look after the stay, before checking out, to make sure we haven't forgotten anything. 

It's not just AirBnBs, of course, but the last hotel we stayed in had divan beds and I still lost a knitting needle and had to go back and check all around the furniture, but I knew it was far less likely to have been under the furniture and missed rather than furniture which is easy to hoover underneath but also easy to push things under, especially when you're a few months old and you get your butt right under the furniture for fun.

We had an awesome honeymoon and really enjoyed the AirBnB we stayed in except for a few little personal notes like the frying pan was terrible which massacred the omelettes I tried to make for breakfast one morning, and the fact that the wood fired hot tub was frustrating because when I want to go in a hot tub, I want to go in it now, not in two to three hours when I've chopped wood, built a fire and finally got it going and loaded it up enough to keep it going whilst I'm in it. Oh, and midges but that's not the AirBnBs fault... They provided a travel cot so we didn't need to bring our own, brought a high chair so that we didn't have to think about that either, left some small supplies in the kitchen and even put roses in a vase, rose petals on the bed and a bottle of champagne to enjoy because it was our honeymoon, but even without the added extras, the place was just stunning, modern, quirky and yet well thought out, and they had cows.

I just would have loved to not have had my husband (Christ that's still fun to say) waiting in the car with the baby whilst I checked every room from lying on the floor to make sure we didn't leave anything too many hours north of our place to want to go back and get it... 

The Night Before,

This is the last blog I need to write before the wedding to ensure that there is something prepped to be published whilst I'm on my honeymoon and I am honestly surprised and bemused I can even say that because getting to the stage where we booked a honeymoon seemed almost impossible at one stage for one reason or another, but there's going to be precious little time between us leaving the venue and returning home to when we need to leave home again so this needs to be done tonight...

...

Surprise, surprise, it did not get done... And I convinced myself that I would get it done on the night before the wedding, and surprising no one, that didn't happen either and now that we're post wedding, on the honeymoon and looking back no it all, I can't even remember what it was that I was thinking about writing or trying to write. I was the picture of organisation - not! - and then I realised that I still had a million things to do. Post wedding, I still feel like I have a lot to do, but it's less and I'm working on chilling out on the honeymoon, enjoying myself and time with my child and MY HUSBAND!, and trying not to stress about the fact that this was a rather long way to say nothing at all... 

Are You Trying To Be A Mummy Blogger Now?,

Did you miss the part where I said I'm terrible at Instagram? It was on my Instagram... But on stories, so it won't still be there.

I read something the other day which described maternity leave as a peak into a life that you never imagined and never knew you wanted. It's about slow mornings and spending time cherishing your child and the developments they are making and the learning they are doing and the growth that they are going through, and all too soon it's over and your back to meetings and emails and everything else your job entails, and so many of us are over it. So many mum's try to start businesses or side gigs that let them be at home more and stay present with their kid or kids. Am I trying to do that? No, I'm not, for a few reasons.

I'm not going to lie, the idea of sending my child to nursery and going back to work is daunting, partly because it feels so alien. Work was a completely different life ago and a wholly different version of me, but I also appreciate that the structure of it will be good for me, and the structure of nursery will be good for my son, and the socialising with other children will be good for him, too. He can play in different ways with different people and different toys, and it's something I would never be able to provide for him at home, and more than anything I want what is best for him, and being at home permanently with just me and his dad in the evenings, I don't think that is what is best for him.

One of the things I have to factor in as well is that I have a good job. Technically I have a great job. I work for the Civil Service and that affords me decent holidays, decent maternity leave and maternity pay, flexibility and stability in a way that my own part time, self employed, whatever thing never could, and there is a lot of value in that. There's also a lot of value in being able to go in, do my job, then come home without being mentally or physically exhausted like I might be from either turning the garden into a jam making, cider making or cake making exercise (we have A LOT of fruit) and actually be present with my child. Depending on different options, I can look at compressing my hours and having a day a week with him, or working term time only so that we actually have the school holidays to do something. Whilst it's possible to do that with your own side hustle or otherwise I think it's also possible that whilst work is there, you want to do it so that you make as much as you can from it to do other things, but then it bleeds over into family time. Something like that requires being strict with yourself in a way I'm not good at. 

I love writing. I have loved it for a very long time and when NaNoWriMo went down in flames it felt like a physical wound that took a long time to heal. I don't have the capacity anymore to write the way I used to. When I was single and wasn't a mother I could sit for hours and lock in on what I was writing and even if I thought afterwards that it was a waste of time, it didn't matter, because it was my time to waste. Now, it's my time with my husband, it's my time with my child, and I can't sit at the breakfast bar in my old flat and ignore the pain I put myself in hunched over the laptop typing furiously away at whatever I'm working on. I couldn't do it at the moment because typing with these nails is infuriating! Writing blogs, even when I write a few at a time and schedule them, is cathartic to me, but can I keep it up when I've got work to juggle, too? We'll see! Can I make it a side hustle? Probably not, because I won't have the time or the commitment to get through that slog to make it happen, and even then you have to be incredibly lucky. Would I make it my career like I used to want? Even if I was given the opportunity to, I don't think I would, because I wouldn't trust myself not to become very isolated and very distracted when my sole work place was in my home, and grabbing the laptop at 2am is an option, even if it's not a healthy one.

Also, I think a lot of mummy bloggers either post their children online - which we aren't doing - or post them with emojis over their faces - which still feels too risky to me - or write or share things I don't think their child will appreciate being online when they get older. Yes, I talk about my kid on here, but I'm not sharing every cough, spit and bowel movement and I never would. Children's online lives are the subject of a lot of debate and I honestly think that if there was a feasible way for myself and my husband to move with our child to Sweden we would genuinely consider it, partly because it would be an adventure and an experience but also because of the way that the country is rolling back on technology within education and refocusing on physical textbooks and handwriting. I know from personal experience that writing with pen and paper and writing with a laptop are two very different things. Add writing with a typewriter in there and I really understand why one of the attendees to the last Night of Writing Dangerously turned up with a Smith Corona on a sack truck with their novel pages in a box or a folder. (I regret not photographing that particular eccentricity - it was epic!) Personally I find that typing on a typewriter - the proper old manual types, not the later electrics, adds a darkness or moodiness to my writing that I love but have little use for since it's not really my preferred genre. Engaging with hand writing is not only a different skill but it uses and develops a different part of the brain and we are losing that, or the next generations are, because we focus so heavily on computers and how much they can do for us so that we don't have to. When you think about how far social media use goes with that, it's scary and that's without the bullying possibilities, the risks of the wrong sort of people accessing images of your child, cyber stalking and deep fakes using images of children to manufacture evidence of child abuse.

At the time of writing this, we're pre-wedding, pre-honeymoon, though when this is posted we will be away and enjoying ourselves. Where we are going has limited connectivity and I honestly can't wait because it gets us away from the beck and call of the phones or the computers. The only thing calling me will be the hot tub and you bet I will be answering that one! If I was trying to build any sort of consistent following, or mummy blogger brand or anything like that, I don't think even being away like that would help me to switch off and it would likely cause me more stress because I wouldn't be able to access everything, even if I had things prepped to go live without me clicking a button. 

So no, I'm not. It's not the plan, and I'm sorry if it feels like a departure from my usual self.

The Bride Wore Size...,

More years ago than I want to recollect, I read one of Meg Cabot's 'other' series than the Princess Diaries which were, I believe, collectively known as The Heather Wells Mysteries. They had titles of Size 12 is Not Fat, Size 14 is Not Fat, Big Boned/Size Doesn't Matter, Size 12 and Ready To Rock and The Bride Wore Size 12. I remember thinking at the time that they were somewhat strange titles because a UK size 12 is definitely not what I would call "fat", but then I realised that a UK 12 and a US 12 are totally different sizes, and the size 12 Cabot was writing about was a UK 16, and the 14 would be a UK 18. These sizes are typically relegated into the realm of plus sizes, which I guess is sometimes seen as synonymous with being "fat".

One of the things mentioned in the novels is vanity sizing, which is essentially where the store or designer mislabels a size intentionally so if you are a size 12, you wear a size 8 and apparently feel better about your life as a result... I mean, I guess it's better than the shrink sizing which has happened over a number of years or a number of brands where sizes are deliberately made smaller, possibly in an effort to make people feel bad about themselves.

You then have the joys of bridal sizing, which is quite frankly the single biggest farce on this planet as far as I'm concerned. Oh, you're a perfect 10? You'll be in a 14 then. You're a size 8 with chesty blessings or had a boob job? Size 18, and lots of adjustments even in a corset back. I know that a lot of dresses need adjustments because people want their wedding dress to be perfect and that's a struggle with something of the rack, but I don't really understand why there is a problem with making clothes with a recognisable size for people so they don't have to spend forever trying to figure out what size they are, or should be, or might be and getting ever more frustrated because it feels like nothing fits.

One of my dresses for the wedding day came from a charity bridal boutique which I love. The other two were from pre-loved online marketplaces, but were a bit of a nightmare because of sizing. One sent me the measurements of the dress and I thought it would be fine after a bit of exercise (postpostum kidding yourself that you'll "bounce back" doesn't help with wedding dress shopping) and the other I looked up the brand, went through their sizing chart and had to consult a measuring tape, but it wasn't quite the say yes to the dress experience you imagine. The best "experience" I had was definitely in the charity boutique. But that dress was a certain size, and so many brides picked up that dress, and tried it on, then had to put it back because the size on the label is two sizes bigger than the measurements are actually. It makes preparing for what is billed as one of the best days of your life really depressing, tedious and all sorts of negative emotions that no bride is seeking out. Or at least I don't think they are.

Now, I fully intend to keep hold of one of my dresses, because the more I see it or think about it the more I love it, and the idea of letting it go makes me sad and that might be because I'm writing this pre-wedding, but I don't think so. I've always been overly sentimental about clothing. The other two I'm happy to sell on, because they're gorgeous and they deserve to be part of a big day, they're not cheap and it would be nice to get some money back for them, and because environmentally, a dress that is many layers more than it needs to be, specialised material, with at least some plastic in the ribbons or the embellishments or other parts, worn once by one person for not even a whole day is quite frankly a disaster. But how do you sell on a wedding dress? The impression I get is there is no perfect way. 

I'm not someone who has dropped between £900-£1500 on a dress and wants to make about 70% of that back, but I've seen it on marketplace and Vinted. These dresses aren't even like Vera Wang or similar, but relatively run of the mill dresses... If you are selling a dress for around £100 or under, you seem to have more success. Another thing which can help is trying on, but naturally, brides are searching from all over the country, and the likelihood of finding someone super close by with the right size, style and price is not exactly high. You can put your dress into places like the charity boutique I went to and that's awesome because it supports charities - mainly the ones I know of are hospices, which is cool - but it does mean that the bride who is getting rid of the dress just gets a nice feeling at having offered some support as opposed to a bit of the money back from the amount they spent, so that's not going to work for everyone... I would love if wedding fayres hosted a pre loved dress sale for wedding dresses, bridesmaids dresses etc! But I also appreciate there would be a lot of admin in that and it would mean it was competing with the bridal stores showing there which I don't think would go down well. 

I believe, though I don't have the details for them, that there is a business in the UK, perhaps more than one, who have dresses in their store, sell them on to new brides and then the person who previously had it gets a cut from what the store sells it for, which is pretty cool, but something that strikes me is that there are thousands of pre-loved dresses which people are trying to part with and thousands more made every year, so the market is massively over saturated, so getting rid of your old dress can take months, or years, and eventually people decide they want the space back and dump a dress into the nearest charity shop where it may not even sell...

So what's the point I'm trying to make? Or am I just going on with myself because my brain has turned to mush from all the wedding planning and baby raising. Probably option two. But also, in an ideal world wouldn't it be cool to keep reusing wedding dresses and sort the sizing out on them so that it was far more simple for them to be found and loved the way that they should be? 

Am I Doing This Right?,

I have to admit, parenthood feels a lot like asking yourself this question a million times a day and being worried that the answer is no, though from what one of the health visitors or midwives said in the early days, the only truly bad parents are the type who either don't ask themselves the question or don't really care what the answer is. Naturally though it's something I worry about, because I worry about everything.

Particularly I'm worried about it at the moment in concern to weaning, because guidance about it is so all over the map, and some people will say you HAVE to start with purees and some will say you HAVE to start with baby led weaning (which doesn't mean no purees) and some people will tell you to just do what works for you and for the baby. Okay, fine, so he's just going to eat chips wherever we are then? Nooooo. 

We started purees early because my little vomit comet was forever losing his stomach contents and - like an idiot - I thought that purees would help him to maintain his weight even if he was puking milk everywhere, but it turns out that purees aren't really nutrient or calorie dense foods, so yes they would stay in his tummy better, but no, they weren't going to help him with his weight at all. That being said, he has moved up the growth charts since the point where we were told he was tiny and to look at him, it's obvious he's a healthy and growing kid. It's hard not to get concerned about the numbers when you go from growth scans where they are right on average, then they seem to drop off a lot, and then they're on or near the 9th centile line and then fall off of that. Now I understand that centiles are like if you lined up a hundred kids born on the same day at the same point and put them in order of weight or length or head size, but I would have thought that "normal" would be something like forty five to fifty five. I'm not sure why I chose that number, or those numbers, but I thought that, and it turns out that the anomalous, or extreme, numbers on that scale are actually 0-2 and 98-100 according to the allergy clinic. If someone had told me that six months ago it would have saved me a whole lot of stress.

Another thing that gets challenging with weaning though is how much do you give them? They're still little, they're still drinking milk and they have no concept of what a feeling of a full stomach is really, or that over eating leads to vomiting, so if you're completely led by your child that is sure to go wrong, isn't it? Well, yes and no. If they're turning their head away or refusing to open their mouth, they might not like something or they might be full, or they might just be having an off day, but you're the parent, so if you know that they've eaten double in one sitting what they normally do, you have to be the responsible bar tender and cut them off. 

Some of it is about persistence as well. Most advice says try giving your child something ten times before accepting that they don't like it. Personally I find that really hard, because chickpeas make little man cry, but also because if he's not interested in food it's getting thrown and if it's not something the dog will willingly eat (and I can then clean the floor of dog spit instead) it's trying to get it cleaned up myself, and that's either from the floor, from smeared all over the high chair or changing whatever clothes he's wearing because it's gone all over him... 

As if all of that is not enough, there is a window of time to move from just thin purees which are mainly fruit and vegetables where you're trying things out to textures. Things like yoghurt (or dairy free alternatives if, like us, yoghurt is off the menu), couscous, pasta, toast, soft biscuits, melty sticks, wafers, strips of food etc. Between eight and twelve months is apparently the absolute must to ensure that babies don't end up stuck on purees with a lot more difficulty moving on. Obviously this is caveated in terms of development, but that's the best window in terms of the average... And honestly, it's hard. 

The first time little legs tried couscous it was because I was having couscous, and I thought, well, the pouch he's eating today is a savoury one anyway so I can just pinch some couscous from my lunch, mix in some of his pouch so it has more flavour and isn't dry and we'll see where we get. There was coughing, there was wretching, there was a whole lot of saliva, but there were also smiles and grabbing for the spoon, so it's not that it was terrible, it was just new. We gave his melty sticks and wafers before he got his teeth through because I had read that they can help with teething, but things like toast and biscuits waited for the teeth to arrive to make sure he had the ability to cut through them and not end up with huge chunks in his throat. 

Even with a couple of teeth through and a few months of practice with purees under our belt, weaning is still a scary experience. It's fun to see how he reacts to new food and what he likes and doesn't like - spoiler alert, if it's not chickpeas, he likes it, at least so far - but given he already has an allergy to milk, it's nerve racking to worry he'll have another allergy and that could be more serious, and that's on top of worries like you have with any child that they could swallow something or choke on something and it becomes a medical emergency really quickly. I can give him a bottle and be bobbing around the room whilst he finishes it, but with solids, I have to be looking at him and making sure I know how he's getting on. I'm not complaining about that, because it's important to make sure he's safe and I know that, but it means another task I have to be switched on for and something else I need to fit into the day with everything else. And how many times do you do it? Well, you should be getting towards three meals a day. I have no clear concept of how to do that. Parenting classes focused on not shaking the baby, not how to get through weaning... 

That being said, I realise this slightly moan-y blog is coming from a privileged place.  Yes, he has an allergy, but it's one thing (granted which is in a lot of things and I've turned into a habitual packet reader) not multiple things which make it hard to use pre-made purees and dinners and mean you're cooking everything yourself, and it's not life threatening, because the after effects are unpleasant but not anaphylaxis. In terms of development, the little guy is doing well, so he's sitting up, trying to crawl, and doing all of the muscular things he needs to do for eating, and he's curious about everything. His interest in food is a really good thing (until I'm eating something with cheese in and need to defend it). The prognosis for his allergy is that it's somewhere between highly possible and highly likely he will grow out of it, and it's not an uncommon thing. 10% of baby's now have a milk allergy of some sort and I think it was something like 80% of those children grow out of the allergy. 

There is work to be done on it, because part of growing out of the allergy comes from working through something called the milk ladder, which manages exposure and builds tolerance gradually, but that is doable, and I do know that we're lucky in a lot of ways, even if I did just put my unsocked foot into a puddle of refluxed milk and that feeling is putrid.

It Doesn't Have To Be Perfect,

Let me start this off with saying I'm not a girl who has imagined my wedding from being a small child. I've seen wedding dresses I've loved and trends I have hated, but I've never been the girl who has known what colours she would choose, what flowers she wanted, the dress, the shoes, the food and everything. I had an idea of the dress and I bought something pretty close to it, but then it didn't fit.

As we've been going along in this planning process though there have been thingsw I've loved and things I've wanted and things where I've thought, screw it, it'll do. (I know, I know, that's really not the attitude.) 

Some of the things which I chose to make - partly because I left it too late to order them - have been somewhat the bane of my life these last couple of weeks and that has been partly because I want them to be perfect, and accepting that they don't have to be and most likely won't be is really hard. But I'm not a painter. I'm not an artist in any way really and I think reminding myself that some of the things I'm making are going to look a bit rustic and wonky is fine, partly because they are homemade, handmade, made with a love of love and effort even if not too much skill and actually that's the thing that makes them lovely.

Yes, I could have paid a lot of money for someone else to do things for me - and this is no disrespect to those who do - but these are things I chose to give a go, spend my time and energy on and that means even though they are imperfect, they are pretty special, too. It might just be something I'm telling myself to feel better, but I guess that's what I have to do at the moment, because even if I wanted to throw the whole idea out of the window or choose to go back and find someone to make them "properly" there's not the time or the budget to do it now, so it's make do or do without...